Two very powerful words, when spoken from the heart.
Because you’re acknowledging that you’ve caused another pain, whether it was intentional or not.
It’s an opportunity to express your regret about the way you behaved, the words you spoke, or the intentions you held.
Without an acknowledgement of wrongdoing, how can the other person believe you don’t intend to repeat the offense?
If someone steals 100 dollars from you, but won’t admit to it, can you see yourself believing they’d never do it again?
You can’t change the past.
You can’t take back words or actions.
But by apologizing, you’re doing what you can to right the wrong.
By owning your actions, you’re saying “I did this, it was wrong. I will do my best to not ever do it again.”
If you find yourself ready to offer an apology, make sure you do two things:
1. Be sure to leave out any excuses, reasons or justifications for what you’re apologizing for.
Otherwise, you’re not taking responsibility for your actions. You’re placing the blame somewhere else and that completely invalidates your apology.
2. Check your expectations at the door.
Don’t expect forgiveness, a change in behavior or an apology in return.
If you receive those gifts, be thankful.
But if you don’t, so be it.
You’ve done your part, and the rest is the other person’s stuff to work out with themselves.
Apologizing is often the first step.
Are you ready?
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