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How much energy are you spending on the other woman?
How often during the day do you think about her?
Have you googled her lately? Complained about her latest antics to your friends? Your husband? Anyone who will listen?
And how does it feel to be consumed with trying to put her down/appease her/be what she wants you to be/defending yourself against her accusations?
What has that done to you? Who has it turned you into? Do you even recognize yourself?
Are you tired of it yet?
It’s time to end your suffering.
I propose, right here, right now, you make a declaration.
Repeat after me. “I hereby vow, to the best of my ability, to no longer spend my precious energy thinking/worry/stressing about the other woman.”
This will include complaining about the little things, wishing she was different, reliving past offenses, dreading future interactions, etc…
Because really, whether you’re worrying about it or not, she’s going to do what she’s going to do. Remember, there’s no controlling her.
The best you can do is protect yourself with firm boundaries and turn your focus back on yourself and your family.
Here’s how you begin: Try to catch yourself every time you think about her. Immediately stop yourself. Then, quietly, to yourself, wish her health, wealth and happiness. (yes, seriously!)
Notice how much calmer you already feel?
Now turn your focus inward. Repeat something soothing to yourself.
Think about how wonderful your life is right now, or what you’re going to do to make it better.
Think about the areas in your life where you feel powerful. What a great future is waiting for you. Think about your booming career or the path you’re on to follow your calling. Friends? Children? Marriage? Fun times? All of it.
Consume yourself with the GOOD STUFF!
If the other woman is just draining your battery, put her aside. Boundaries will help you keep her out so you can focus on your priorities, such as your marriage and/or children!
So, who’s in?
© 2011 Jenna Korf All Rights Reserved
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