The Little Red Hen & I

Angry Woman

I was raised by a little red hen and have spent most of my life being a little red hen. For those of you who don’t know that story – the little red hen was a hen who did everything for herself. I didn’t learn how to help in the kitchen, so I didn’t know how to allow others to … [Read more...]

Inspiration By The Shelf

Books Kerri

Where do you find your inspiration? A quick Yahoo search will reveal 4,800 results for “where do people find inspiration”. Most of those results are linked to thousands of responses. The answers range from dreams to religion, friendly competitions, the plight of others, … [Read more...]



“Acceptance doesn’t mean resignation. It means understanding something is what it is and there’s got to be a way through it.” Michael J. Fox   I ran across this quote today. Some of you, I’m sure, have read this before. This was the first time I’ve heard it. It was … [Read more...]

Rest Where You Are…

Rest Where You Are

I recently attend a presentation by a Frank Ostaseski;  a respected expert in the field of death and dying and founder of The Metta Institute.  The powerful presentation offered much to ruminate on, but one phrase resonated with particular meaning for me.  "Rest where you … [Read more...]

Starbucks & Stepfamilies


Don’t Take Their Word For It... We have all read about the Starbucks debacle on social media this week. We’ve seen the outrage, the jokes, and the memes. Some think a war is being waged on Christmas and others simply don’t care. As long their double shot is in their morning … [Read more...]

For The Love of Books

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You don’t walk into a marriage with kids and love the kids automatically. Yes, I know the mythology of step parenting says that a good step mom will immediately love her husband’s children but like most myths that is just not the case. Relationships must be built first with … [Read more...]

The Wall of Armour

Poem 1 Lucy

The Wall of Armour Season by season, The wall of armour is constructed. Starting with the first brick being laid, placed alone when the boy at school laughs at the outfit you were so very proud of. The foundation is set. Each moment of doubt adds a layer … [Read more...]

Leave My Fortress For A Nest???

Forest Lucy

Mending the nest? …cue hysterical laughter…. How do you mend your nest when it was all carefully constructed by a manipulator? How do you even comprehend rebuilding something that was all the result of lies and deceit? Is it harder to mend a nest when it was a falsity in … [Read more...]

The Darkness Before The Dawn


“This world is your best teacher. There is a lesson in everything. There is a lesson in each experience. Learn it and become wise. Every failure is a stepping stone to success. Every difficulty or disappointment is a trial of your faith. Every unpleasant incident or temptation is … [Read more...]

Buy Your Own Happiness

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Grocery shopping can either be the highlight of my suburban life or my worst nightmare. I’m usually shopping at a weird hour with a messy bun and laundry day clothes on. Most trips I enjoy perusing the aisles listening to the feel good music, knowing it’s the only alone time I … [Read more...]

Fifteen Years Goes Fast

Kerri Cheerleading

Fifteen years of cheerleading and it all comes down to one last game day, one last pep rally, quite literally - one last 'hoorah'. That seems to be the theme this year, 'one last…' I knew this would be a hard year for me and for her. On her 'last' first day of school I … [Read more...]

Food Wars – Stepfamily Style

sad boy

Mothering is a deeply personal role, a role that centres around our sense of self and our ability to care for our loved ones. Mothering is about our values, what we see as important in the world, what we wish to instill in our children as their value sets. Often it’s a … [Read more...]

Sometimes Stepfamilies Suck

Lemon sucking

Over the past few days I have been uncharacteristically low, and at times, quite out of sorts. In the bad old days, I would have castigated myself for not ‘snapping out of it’. I would have counted my blessings and told myself how much better my life was than lots of other … [Read more...]

Whose Shit Is It Anyway?

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I was talking with a friend today about a situation in her stepfamily dynamic. She is one of the most thoughtful, caring people I know and always trying to make sure she does things right by the other house. A situation came up where something she had been doing for a while … [Read more...]

The Back to School Wars

school bus

Well, it’s here - back to school time.  Most kids I know are back at school by now.  How did it go for your family?  I’ve noticed a trend for people around me in step families.  It seems that back to school time is a great time for parents to exert control.  Who is going to have … [Read more...]

When You Lose Your Stepkids

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  I haven't lost a child to death. I would never compare my pain to that of someone who has. I have experienced pain in relation to my stepkids, though. I have suffered a loss. I have lost my children. To understand such an insurmountable loss, we have to rewind five years … [Read more...]